Developing Self Esteem In Children - 4 Effective Ways To Help You Develop Your Child's Self Esteem

In order to be capable of raising children, who are set to take on life's challenges and perceive disappointment as simply a springboard rather than an obstacle, it is our duty as parents to inculcate in them the principles of self-support, self-determination, self-assurance, and self-respect.

Children, who are self-determined, are capable of cogitating for themselves, rather than relying on us for providing them the solutions for every trivial issue that takes place, whether optimistic or pessimistic. Our children should be capable of resolving issues by themselves at a very young age or else they will grow up to be adults who prefer remaining on the periphery and watch the passing of time, quite unobserved.

Developing the self-esteem of our children is possibly amongst the greatest gifts any parent can bestow on their kids, early on in their life. By educating our kids to be self-sufficient and to have confidence in their capability to accomplish things, we would not be extremely apprehensive when they grow up in due course, since we are positive that they will take sensible decisions.

This is an extremely hostile world, which we inhabit. Whether we wish to accept it or not, it is not possible for us to protect our children continuously from these adverse conditions. At some point of time, we need to release them and permit them to travel to new destinations and build a persona of their own.

Suppressing this development by keeping them under our scrutiny would be unfortunate for them. Bear in mind that we do not possess our children. They are not pawns to dance to our every tune. They are blessed with special aptitudes and traits that should be improved and refined.

1. Motivate them to follow their dreams.

A majority of parents put a damper on their kids' desire to dream big, out of apprehension that the ordeals they have to face on their way as well as the letdowns will cause distress and discontent. This is just not the case. Parents should support and egg on their kids to seek whatever they set their sights on, since disillusionment is an unavoidable part of human life. It is only through setbacks that we discover and grow. It is only by tasting defeat that we fathom the means of successfully tackling the subsequent confrontation, which we come across.

2. Give your kids free rein

It is not very likely to be constantly providing answers to your kids' problems. You need to permit them to develop at their very own tempo and time. In case their decisions are diametrically different from your's, do not challenge them. Your duty is to take a backseat, and observe them from the periphery and make certain that they do not lose their way, but not to monitor their every action. If they commit errors, it's okay. Rather than setting right problems on their behalf, train them to jump right back into the fray and start all over again.

3. Have faith in your kids

In case you do not let your children know that you have faith in their capability to realize their dreams, then, in all likelihood, they will be unable to pull off anything in life. Keep in mind that our kids frequently count on us for direction and backing, even after gaining adulthood. Our recognition and motivation is indispensable. The simple truth is, if you do not have trust in them, they will not too.

4. Support them

Albeit our children commit faults, we should let them know at all times that we are right behind them and we care for them. Certainly, our children have never, and will never make the wisest choices. We will watch them break down when they are unsuccessful. With the purpose of assisting them in getting back the power to wage a fresh battle, we need to disclose to them that drawbacks are inevitable in one's life and we will be there to aid them in starting life anew. Nobody is picture perfect. Like our children, we too, have our flaws.

Being parents, there is only that much we can do for our kids to ready them for the journey to be undertaken. It is not right on our part to keep them with us always. Every child is an exceptional personality, with his/her own special agenda in life. Give them the freedom to develop and prosper.

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Self-Mailers - When and How to Use Them

By definition, a self-mailer is any mailing that is completely self-contained and doesn't require an envelope. It could be a simple postcard (please read my article "Postcards as a Marketing Tool--Yes, They Still Work"), a piece that is folded once and stapled (or glued or taped) to provide more space, or something more complex with more folds.

As with any type of marketing piece, the self-mailer has pluses, minuses, and specific strategies and purposes. Follow these tips on how to use the self-mailer most effectively:

A plus: a self-mailer is less expensive than a multi-part package. It's cheaper to produce, less costly to mail, and takes less time for the copywriter to create.

A minus: a self-mailer is less personal than a letter. It announces itself as junk mail at a glance and is at risk for being tossed. It also provides less space to make a sales pitch.

When to use a self-mailer: it generally works best with simple offers. Use it for lead generation (where you don't need a hard sell), to announce a sale, or to send coupons to previous customers.

Some ways to use your space most efficiently:

1. Put your contact information on the front--don't make your prospect search for it.

2. Make the business reply card easy to tear off and return. And don't put anything on the other side of the BRC that the prospect will need later.

3. Devote some space to a picture of the item being offered, so your prospect can tell at a glance 57Eif she's interested.

4. Don't make it difficult to open--and don't design it so that important information is lost when the prospect tears it open.

5. Test! Try a self-mailer, and try a complete package. If the package pulls better, it'll pay for itself in increased sales.

Whatever you do, don't completely delete the lowly self-mailer from your marketing repertoire. Used in the right circumstances--and done right--it can be an effective marketing tool.

Lisa J. Lehr is a freelance copywriter specializing in direct response and marketing collateral, with a special interest in the health, pets, specialty foods, and inspirational/motivational/self-help niches. She has a degree in biology, has worked in a variety of fields including pharmaceuticals and teaching, and has volunteered for many causes including special-needs kids and literacy. When she's not writing, she enjoys reading, art, music, outdoor exercise, and all things Celtic and Renaissance.

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Is Self Healing Colitis And Crohns Possible?

Some people with digestive problems are eventually diagnosed with either Crohns disease or Colitis. These are very similar conditions, and they may often be mistaken for one another. Before looking at whether self healing Colitis and Crohns is possible we will first review the two conditions.

The symptoms of each are fatigue, diarrhea, upset stomach, and sometimes bleeding from the rectum. Abdominal pain is usually the overriding symptom of each one. The problem lies with inflammation of the intestines (or other part of the digestive system). The complications are usually manageable, but there can be life-threatening complications if the condition is not being monitored by a doctor. Crohns can affect any part of the digestive system, but Colitis is only found in the rectum and colon.

There are times when both Colitis and Crohns disease are easily managed. Some people have symptoms that bother them for a time, but they then go into a remission of sorts, and are symptom-free for a while. They may have an occasional flare up, but other than that, they are fine. Others suffer with more severe forms of the disease, and they must learn to live with their problems and symptoms day in and day out. This can greatly affect the quality of life, and these patients may be on medications for the rest of their lives to keep their symptoms at a manageable or at least tolerable level.

One big question that people with each of these conditions want answered is if there is anything that can be done. There are some surgical procedures that can be performed, but they do not guarantee anything. There is a book on the market called Self Healing Colitis and Crohns, but you should know that this might not work for you. It might depend on how serious your condition is, and what steps you are willing to take. This book makes the claim that the inflammation that causes both Colitis and Crohns is down to our diets, and if you eat the right way you can self heal.

The foods that are recommended for this are raw foods like fruits and vegetables. You can have cooked vegetables, but5B0 raw is best. Sufferers are encouraged to follow a Vegan diet in order to reverse the problems that have caused the symptoms in the first place. The claim is that this diet is what our bodies are designed to handle, and that many of our modern convenience foods, and most meats, are leading to more and more cases of both Crohns and Colitis. The chances of this approach working for you will depend on your case, but the less severe your condition might be, the better your chances for reversal.

If you are interested in the book Self Healing Colitis and Crohns, you can find it online. There are some who swear by it, and others who say that it did nothing for them. If you think the diet is working for you, and you want other natural methods of dealing with your symptoms, you might want to add acupuncture to your regime to see if that helps you. There are also many herbs you can try, but remember that herbs can react with medications. You should always discuss what you want to do with your doctor so they may keep you safe, and help you monitor your progress.

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The Core of the Soul - The Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Soulful Love Part Two

Gifting & Receiving Absoulute Love

For some of the souls here on this earth dimension, we are able to gift Absoulute Love what we perceive as easily to other souls. Spirit says that there are moments in which we perceive we are gifting Absoulute Love but it is in the form of the disguise of conditions, or expectations of how we think other souls should be. This form of gifting is that of conditional love, whereby if the soul acts or is being within how we think they should be within our perception, then we gift that soul love. If they are being something other than what we deem in our perception that they are "supposed to" be, then we attempt to provide the illusion of "withholding" our love.

For the souls whom have remembered, embraced, and treasured this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, then this Absoulute Love is an constant flowing 5B4resonance that they choose to BE in, a way of BEing, a way of LIFE. Receiving and giving are One in the co~creative forces of the Universe and of LIFE. It is from this sense of 6ratitude that we are in Ah! Or Awe! with, for, and of LIFE when we are resonating in a resonance of Absoulute Love. When we are within this ambiance of Absoulute Love that it is seamlessly, effortlessly flowing from within our soul to other souls to the Universe and then comes again to us in a continuous circle or cycle of Absoulute Love.

For the souls whom live in the perception of an axiom that Absoulute Love was free from ever being shown to them in their lives here on this earth dimension, these souls choose The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" of choosing the illusion of "withholding" their Absoulute Love. I should know this phenomenon quite well, as I once chose to BE this soul. The illusionary reason that I chose to reside within the illusion of "withholding" gifting Absoulute Love was because I felt that I was unworthy of receiving it, and if I was unworthy of receiving it, then why should anyone else receive it, especially from me. This was what I believed within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" when I chose to live in the illusion that I was separate, disconnected from every soul, from everything.

As Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, there was a moment in my Life Experience here where I 5B4'decided' or cut off all possibility of Absoulute Love in my LIFE. As a part of the game of LIFE, I 'decided' while resonating within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole", that I was 'not good enough or worthy enough' to receive Absoulute Love. For me, this occurred when I was six earth dimensional years old. When I was six earth dimensional years old, I was a great speller of the earth dimension's English language and had won the spelling bee at school. I came home with a certificate saying I won and my mother was very proud of me and happy and she said "You should show this to your father when he gets home".

Now as an adult, spiritually speaking, I recognize in this moment that my father is the type of person that when he comes home, his form of meditation to wind down from what he considers to be a 'long day at work' is to sit down in front of the T.V. in his favorite chair, read the mail, and just veg out, as his form of meditation. But as a six year old, whom had been on this earth dimension for such as short amount of what we call as earth dimension time, I was free from knowing and understanding this wisdom, as coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from, we are free from this concept as all is inclusively One sense of inner wisdom and this is who I was choosing to BE as a six year old having been free from discovering and embracing 5B4completely the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul. So when I came running into the room just after dad had come home that earth dimensional night and was in his chair looking at the mail with his meditative focus on that, and me waving my certificate around, he was free from even ever acknowledging me. It was then and there in that moment that I realized the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate, that said I was 'not good enough' ~ not good enough to receive his Absoulute Love, and therefore, I must not be worthy of receiving any Absoulute Love. From that moment on I set out in my life to "prove" that I was 'not good enough'.

Therefore, when events would occur to bring forth a Soul Remembering, such as the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love through events such as kids picking on me at school or this soul would not play with me or be my friend, rather than choose to remember, embrace, and treasure the Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience, I would experience the thoughtenergy to myself of (and some moments in an Ego Fit Rabbit Hole tantrum out loud) "SEE! Look at what THEY did, SEE I am not good enough, see they will not be my friend or they pick on me etc..." Later in life it was with Aaron who was then my boyfriend, when we were physically separated when I became pregnant with our son Chris and he was in the illusion of believing that he was free from5B4 being ready to be a father, again rather than remember, embrace, and treasure, this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, it was "See I am not good enough, he left me".

Thus, from the moment of being that six year old, I began to prove over and over again within The Ego Self of The Soul perceiving myself as separate from in Absoulute Love and from All That Is, that I was 'not good enough'. For many earth dimensional years I became quite skilled at playing the role of the illusionary victim and seeking out other souls to bring with me into The Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole that I was choosing to create. In fact, I became so good at it that I had a friendship with a soul at one moment in my LIFE in which, our sole or Soul Purpose for being friends, our Soul Purpose for being brought together was for us to spend money and to sit while our children played together and have Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole fits about our perception of how horrible our husbands were and how horrible life is and so on! In essence, for many earth dimension years I was living my life as a six year old!

It was when I went through a weekend spiritual seminar that began the five year earth dimension period of what we call here as the initiation of Ascended Mastery or Spiritual Oneness, in which I would choose to remember continuously many Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience that would gift to me the rememberings of the so5B4ul for who I am BEing in this moment.

The Illusion That We Are Separate From Absoulute Love

Spirit shares with us that we somehow fear and believe that we are "unworthy enough" to receive Absoulute Love and it is this axiom within the soul that we seem to choose to call our own, as we hold onto this axiom as if it is ours that we are unconscious to that keeps us from knowing, experiencing, gifting, and receiving Absoulute Love which is why events occur in our LIFE, to awaken and re~awaken us to remember the Soul Rememberings that we have chosen to forget as a part of playing this game of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience).

It is within the believing in this axiom of "I am unworthy of Absoulute Love" Spirit imparts, that has us create a perceptional illusion of proving over and over again that we are unworthy. So just as who I once was choosing unconsciously to BE, we seek out relationships and events to prove that illusion of The Ego Self of the Soul that says that we are indeed separate from every soul, separate from All That Is, and unworthy of Absoulute Love. It is that we somehow believe that we are something other than always, in All Ways connected that causes us to experience the illusionary perceived e~motional disconnection, which is what then causes the illusional e~motional discontent or dis~ease, a being free from BEing at ease within, to occur.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing shares with usB68 that the reason that we experience the e~motion at moments like we are encased in a shell in our LIFE is because we feel that somehow we are disconnected from other souls and disconnected from All That Is, from the Universal Source that we came from and emanate from, which creates an illusion that we have a disconnection within us, with our soul. It is just that mere illusion that we are somehow other than The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from and that we are disconnected and unloved, that keeps us experiencing the e~motion that we are something other than connected. And it is our choice to stay in the illusion of disconnection that keeps us from being connected, from being All That Is or to step into and BE what we already and always, In All Ways, are ~ Spiritual Oneness and Absoulute Love.

BEing Absoulute Love

How do we shift this? How do we come to a resonance of Absoulute Love? As Spirit invited us earlier, they share that it is through 6ratitude that we are Absoulute Love. However, in being in 6ratitude within an illusionary 'seeking out' Absoulute Love in this way, Spirit says we tend to look outward for Absoulute Love rather than inward. Thus in this shifting into a resonance of Absoulute Love, the shift comes from within. It is seeing ourselves as worthy, valuable, Absoulutely Loveable (Loveable meaning able to be Absoulute Love) within our soul. We are worthy of relationships that genuinely honor the light of who we are. We deserve all of the wonder and the awe of All That Is in the Universal for this Life Experience.

Why do we deserve this? Why does Absoulute Love exist? Because this is the very essence of who we and emanate from. Because we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, therefore we are free from BEing anything other than Absoulute Love. This Absoulute Love for our soul is free from resonating within a resonance of The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate and in Axiom with that Absoulute Love of our soul is somehow selfish or conceited. It comes from an inner wisdom in knowing that we are all Divine BEings coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and is of, for, with, in and BEing Divine Absoulute Love.

How can we BE this? The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing brings forth the wisdom that it is within the enlightenment that shows us that since we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we a5B4re The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, then how can we be anything other than already and always, In All Ways, connected to Spirit and receiving their guidance clearly, and how can we be anything other than Absoulute Love? Spirit invites us to BE that of who we are, BE Absoulute Love ~ BE ever presently seeing the beauty and the Absoulute Love within us and let it shine from within us just like a beacon of light from a lighthouse.

Appreciate how wonderfully beautiful you are, as you are an expression of the Divine light. Breathe this in, take a deep breath in and feel this message fill your soul, your spirit. Feel the beautiful light of who you are as it flows from just about a foot above the diadem or crown of the head, all the way through the physical body to the feet, and then all the way to your heart center which is where the soul resides and then encircling your aura. Truly know with a deep sense of inner knowing, inner wisdom and truly feel with the feeling that comes from the very depth of your soul, getting in touch with every part of your soul remembering that of what your soul already does know and is within infinite all inclusive wisdom of but has chosen to forget in coming here to play this game called LIFE ~ that free from any shred of doubt, free from any hesitation, that you are a radiant Beacon of Infinite Light and Absou5B4lute Love, an expression of Divine Absoulute Love, Infinite Light, and Beauty, and that you are All That Is.

Spirit invites us to nurture the spiritual child within us, the spiritual child of our soul. They say that within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love that the reason that we may experience the illusion of having trouble embracing our own inner spiritual child with Absoulute Love is that we in The Ego Self of the Soul create the illusion of fear, that we somehow fear the bliss that comes from BEing Absoulute Love. That we fear that we can BE, gift, and receive Absoulute Love and that if we are to take that one step, just that one step into Spiritual Oneness, stepping into and gifting that Absoulute Love to our inner child of our soul, that our light will come beaming through, and that it is the Infinitely Spiritual Soul BEing of Light that we are that we are illusionally fearful of.

Within The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving ourselves as separate our deepest fear is free from being that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are ambrosial beyond measure. It is our light, rather than The Ego Self of the Soul that we perceive that frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, All wise and all knowing, talented, and magnificent?" Actually, why are we free from BEing so? We are an inner child of the Spiritual Oneness of All That Is. We will be free from serving and gifting th5B4e Universe, all within the Universe, and all within this earth dimension by playing the game of BEing small.

Enlightened we are free from living in the illusion of shrinking our spirit, shrinking our soul, so that other souls will be free from experiencing the e~motion of BEing insecure around us .We are all meant to shine, just as children do. We are born to co~create the awe~inspiring beauty of Absoulute Love, of All That Is that is within us, simply because this is who we are. This is why we chose to incarnate here ~ to experience, to gift, to receive, to remember that of the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love. Spirit or Divine Consciousness dwells within our soul. It is the essence of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) and we always, in All Ways, have an unbroken lifeline to the Universal Source of which we emanate from, regardless of how small or dim that connection we may perceive it within The Ego Self of the Soul as separate to illusionarily be.

Would we ask a flower to be something other than a flower? A flower is a flower because this is what is, a flower. We are free from being able to ask it or make it be a tree or a mountain. And if we understand this, then we can understand that who we are is an Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all. And who are we to ask or pretend to be something that we are free fro5B4m being? This is that of the hypnocrite that Spirit write of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, that of attempting to be something we are free from being. Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all is free from being just within some of us; it is within every soul. And as we let our own light shine, we consciously gift other souls the gift of choosing to BE the same. As we are liberated from our own illusionary fears blending The Ego Self of the Soul into the Whole of our Soul, into Spiritual Oneness, our presence automatically liberates other souls with whom we touch, move, and inspire by and with our inner light.

It is when we choose the choice to know within our inner wisdom that we are worthy of receiving Absoulute Love that then the channel is opened and we see, feel, and BE Absoulute Love within the infinite forms as it reveals itself to us, as the illusion that we are disconnected and unable to receive has then fallen away, leaving us with the connection to Spirit to All That Is, to the pure joy and bliss of Absoulute Love.

Spirit invites us then to choose that we are good enough and we are worthy to receive their guidance and to receive Absoulute Love simply because we have taken a view of all other possibilities and choose then that we are worthy of spirits guidance and Absoulute Love, because we are All That Is, b5B4ecause we come from All That Is. And if we come from All That Is, then how can we be anything less than worthy of receiving Absoulute Love from Spirit and from all the plethora of forms it comes in. We are worthy of Absoulute Love because we are Absoulute Love.

Absoulute Love is inviting you to experience all that this Absoulute Love has in store for you. Do you accept love's invitation? We hope you do.

Gifting, Receiving, and BEing Absoulute Love calls us to open our heart and LIFE to all the gifts waiting for us that this Absoulute Love has to gift. It gifts us with the treasure of Infinite Soulful Bliss and Spiritual Oneness. Thank you for receiving the Absoulute Love of the Universe so generously in this moment. Welcome to the heart of the soul of Absoulute Love. Life is an experience, free from being about arriving at a destination. So too, is Absoulute Love a journey, free from being about arriving at destination, as we already are Absoulute Love.

The Shift So Deep

I can remember one of the more recent axiomal shifts that occurred for me about four earth dimension years ago now. There is a man by the name of Steve Rother, and he channels Spirit in what he calls The Group. I was listening to one of his channels and on came this song. A woman began singing this song and I felt as though every word that this woman was singing was meant for me. The words to her song touched me so deeply that I began to sob. It 111Cwas the confirmation for me that the inner child in me was healing and that I indeed was free from being alone and that I am loved and I am Absoulute Love. It was the initiation that I would later come to know through Spirit into what we call here on this earth dimension as Ascended Mastery which I completed this circle of in the Spring of 2005.

The money that I would manifest to purchase the CD was free from being available to me at that moment as I had been free from choosing to manifest it. However, I was gifted with the messages from Spirit that I would know when I would be meant to have this CD and to manifest the funds to bring it forth into my LIFE. So I carried the copy of this song's sample on my computer with me for the last several earth dimensional years now and have referred to it often as a reminder of its beautiful words and of the messages that I received within it and from it. Then it began playing in my soul over and over until I heard it within and was free from needing the CD. It was amazing then and yet another confirmation from Spirit when Aaron had said this very thing about a favorite music CD of his. I had borrowed this CD to place it on my computer so I could listen to it too (as I like the CD as well) and so that he could keep the CD in his car with him while I would still have it on my computer to listen to. I had been busy and had forgotten to place it on my computer, thus the CD sat in our room for several days. When I said to Aaron that I had forgotten to do this yet and did he just wish to have the CD back anyhow that I could do it at a later moment, to which he said, "It is ok Hon, whenever you get it back to me is fine, as I hear the song within me, within my soul always so if the CD is elsewhere, I still have it within".

It was just recently when the healing of the inner child through Spiritual Imagination and Inspiration that Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Inspiration, which became the topic of our ongoing spiritual circle that we have weekly in our spiritual center that I remembered Spirits guidance that I would know when I was meant to purchase the CD of this song that I so fell in Absoulute Love with a few earth dimensional years before that had shifted me and the axioms of who I believed I was, that it was indeed the moment to obtain this and share it with the circle. Hence, I did purchase the CD then and the money was instantly there for me to and we utilized them in our spiritual circle. The healing, the beauty, and the shift in axiomal alignment that transpired that evening from just playing this one song was the most amazing transformation I have ever experience aside from my own. This woman's spiritual gift of singing of these words transcends anything here on this earth dimension, and I thank her from the bottom of my soul for the amazing gift she shares with all of us souls in assisting us to R.E.S.T. (Remember, Embrace, and Soulfully Treasure) within the light of who we are. She truly inspires me. Her name is Shaina Noll, and the song that she sings that I am referring to is her rendition of the song entitled "How Can Anyone?"

This song is such as simple song, so few in its words, but its meaning is so inspirational that it touches, it moves, and it inspires all who listen to it. It brings a healing of the inner child and also a resonance of AbSOULute soulful Oneness Love from the very core of the soul within you. I invite you to go to Shaina's website to hear the words to this beautiful song. Any soul who would like to listen to the song sample of this song "How Can Anyone?" or any of her other beautiful music, can listen by visiting her website:

http://www.shainanoll.com/songsamplepages/songsamples.html and scroll down about half way down the page to the Songs for the Inner Child CD song samples on the left side and click on the "How Could Anyone?" title. Shaina's CD Songs for the Inner Child, that "How Can Anyone?" is on, as well as her other CD's can be discovered for purchase as well on this webpage or by visiting her homepage at http://www.shainanoll.com

Spirit says that what keeps the creative energies of axiomal alignment for expanded consciousness, increased awareness, and spiritual oneness alive, is an appreciative openness to receive followed by some soulful response to58F this receiving. As long as there is a continued openness to receiving all of the gifts that the Universe has to offer us, the gifts keep flowing, or we could say that the gifts keep gifting. They say that some moments it takes a powerful event such as the one I just shared here with you, or what we perceive on this earth dimension to be the illusion of something "bad" such as a loss of a home, or a soul whom transitions back home to the Spiritual Universe for us to get to that point where we are touched, moved, and inspired into the shifting of our axioms. Spirit refers to this as a spiritual 2 x 4. Spirit shares that these events when seen through the eyes of the soul, through the eyes of Spiritual Oneness, are just simply gifts that are gifted to us to remember the light of whom we are.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing also refers to the Prayer of St. Francis in which it is said that it is within gifting that we receive. Therefore, Spirit asks us what thoughtenergy, what axioms are we gifting to our soul and to the experience of this LIFE that we are choosing? In what areas of our LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) are we choosing in each moment to shift into axiomal alignment with our soul? What step will we take to open the door to Infinite Possibilities? The Infinite Circle begins with us. It is our choice. Do you choose AbSOULUte soulful Love always, in all ways?

Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD, is a universally celebrated author, speaker, and spiritual mentor within the resonance of Spiritual Oneness. She is currently the author of two books, "Life Long Learning ~ Transforming Learning; Discovering Learning Through Living Life in Unlimitless Possibilities" and "Stepping Into Spiritual Oneness ~ Spiritual Rememberings of the Soul Through Life Experience"; and has appeared on various radio shows and within articles of international publications. She is a Spiritual Medium, Visionary, and has been gifted by Spirit as an Ascended Master. As a clear conduit of the Divine, Patti channels the wisdom of Spirit within Multi~Dimensional ways to inspire each soul to develop their own inner voice of the soul of who they are and brings the gifts of Infinite Healing, AbSOULute Love or Soulful Love, Light, and Peace to all whom she inspires. Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD is the Director of The Diamondlight International Spiritual Oneness Center and also creator of the OneSoul REALationship Series. For more information about her please visit her website at http://www.diamondlady.net

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About Love - Loving Unconditionally

You may be familiar with the term unconditional love, but have you learned to practice this powerful concept? Unconditional love is a transformational gift that empowers us and those whom we love to become the best that we can be. It is fundamental to our happiness and wellbeing to learn how to love ourselves and others unconditionally.

Unconditional love is more than a powerful concept it is has the genuine power to heal both ourselves and people around us. When we love someone unconditionally we accept them with all of their flaws and weaknesses and transform those things within them which may be hard for them to accept into things they may more easily accept and deal with. When we accept ourselves for who we are with all our flaws then we empower ourselves to change and improve ourselves. Unconditional love tells another person that those things within themselves which they find fault with are ok, that they can accept those things about themselves and not feel badly about themselves or punish themselves for those things. And of course, when we love ourselves unconditionally we receive the same message and empower ourselves to grow and become better people.

Unfortunately it is part of the nature of our human condition to use our love as a manipulative tool. We may think we are trying to change something about someone we love for the better by placing conditions on our love, but this simply isnt true. By making our love for either ourselves or for others conditional we limit our love and effectively say we do not love ourselves or we do not love others in regard to whatever conditions we have defined.

Withdrawing our love from ourselves and from others can only ever harm both the person who feels less loved and the person who limits their love. A person who feels unloved by us may feel less love for themselves by finding fault with themselves for which they then withhold their own love of themselves doing themselves more harm. Or a person who has been denied love based on conditions may resent the limits of the love they have received and become angry or bitter toward someone who otherwise might love them. So conditional love is very harmful, it is not really love at all because it has the power to do so much harm.

We should never place limits or conditions on our love for anyone else, including ourselves. It is an injustice to love anyone, including ourselves, in any conditional manner. We should always look within ourselves and other people for those places where we feel our love may be constrained by any judgment or criticism and let go of that judgment or criticism and accept ourselves and everyone else for who we are now. When we limit our love and predicate the full effulgence of our love on conditions which must first be met we are being selfish and manipulative. Love can never arise from selfish or manipulative behavior it can only be spoiled by these.

It may seem hard to love other people unconditionally. We may feel someone we otherwise might love unconditionally has a particular character trait which we feel is repulsive and we may want them to change that in order to make themselves worthy of our love. That is such a selfish ego game. Who are we to decide for others how they should be? It may be the case that someone who cares for us may discover for themselves what they may want to change about themselves which may make it easier for us to love them but they must do that of their own accord in their own good time and not be pushed to change or be manipulated to change because this pushing manipulative behavior is selfish and aggressive and may cause unpleasant reactions in which the person we feel we might otherwise love resents us and becomes angry with us.

So whenever we come across any limits we may feel in our loving regard for others or for ourselves we should change ourselves in response to those limits and learn to accept and to love in response to such feelings without limits or conditions. Love is not about putting ourselves ahead of everyone else, but when we love someone in a conditional manner that is exactly what we are doing; we are putting what we want ahead of truly loving someone.

We impoverish our lives by the limits which we place on our love. Worse, we impoverish the lives of others whom we should love unconditionally. We cannot afford this sort of poverty 8A7of our spirits. It demeans us, making less of us in our own eyes as well as in the eyes of others. Only by embracing ourselves and everyone we meet with our full effulgent and unconditional love can we empower ourselves to love and to heal ourselves and to love and help heal those around us whoever they may be.

We must let go of all of our terms and conditions and judgments and criticism and accept the world as it is and accept everyone in the world as they are. Acceptance is an incredibly powerful fulcrum which enables our love to be a lever that moves the world. We may move the world with our love in every moment, and the world will love us all back the more in return.

When we empower ourselves to be unconditionally loving to everyone we meet, including ourselves we will have never regret it; instead we will make ourselves and everyone we meet happier, healthier more loving human beings.

BIO: Fledgling author Greg Gourdian has worked with the general public as a psychic reader for a little over four years from 1981 to 1986. Much of his written work is channeled, although he will admit that he has no idea who many of the sources for his channeled work may be. He has many strange tales to tell regarding his spiritual journey and he attempts to tell his tales in a humorous or entertaining manner. While not an accredited teacher, Greg has taught classes in psychology, sociology, metaphysics and parapsychology.

Visit Greg's blog at http://tangledintime.blogspot.com/

Persistence Pays Off

Relationship Myths - Eight Examples That will Doom Your Relationship to Failure

Relationship myths are everywhere. There are more than I can count. The fairy tales that we believe create all sorts of problems in our real life relationships. Let's look at eight of the many relationship myths that will doom your relationship to failure:

1. All you need is love

This one is nice to believe. Love conquers all. Reality check: love is an essential ingredient in your relationship, but it is just one of many. A good relationship needs other ingredients, such as respect, appreciation, and the ability to negotiate when in conflict, to name a few.

2. If my partner loved me, s/he would _____________.

This statement is one of conditional love. It's also quite manipulative. Essentially, it's saying this: "If you loved me, you would do what I want; you would even know what I want without my having to tell you." Wow, that's quite a heavy expectation from someone you love.

Does it work the other way around (If I loved my partner, I would ______________)? Not usually. Be careful. If you expect your partner to love you unconditionally, yet you have all these conditions for you to give love your partner, you are creating an unequal, unfair, and deeply unhappy relationship.

3. Love means never having to say you're sorry

Yes, the movie "Love Story" gave us that line. If you don't say "I'm sorry" when you've done something offensive, what does that say about you? Are you too insecure to admit to causing offense? Are you telling your partner you are so above other mortals that you don't need to apologize?

Are you so angry at your partner that you believe s/he deserves what you did? I sincerely hope not. If this is a habit of yours, examine your beliefs about apologizing. They may need revising. Otherwise, you may be headed for loneliness.

4. If the sex is good, the relationship will be good too

Too many people consider a passionate sex life to mean they are compatible with their partner. They confuse passion with love. If that's all you've got, it's not enough to sustain a committed relationship.

5. If I don't say what I think/feel, I can't be happy in my relationship

What are we, in grade school? "If I don't get to express myself, I'm going to pout." I've had thoughts I would not want people to know about; we all have. Some thoughts, if voiced, can permanently damage a relationship.

I'm not telling you to stuff all of your feelings and never say what's on your mind. I'm asking you to be aware of how your words can impact your loved one. Ask yourself, "If my partner told me what I'm about to say, how would I feel?" Think first before you speak, then be tactful.

6. My partner is supposed to make me happy

Some people work really hard to make their partner happy, believing it is actually in their power to create happiness in another person. Others believe that their partner holds their happiness in the palm of his/her hands.

Sometimes people who believe this myth spend lots of time complaining to their partner and nagging their partner. Danger, danger! Creating happiness is your responsibility, not your partner's. You can do this when you work together to build a respectful, appreciative relationship.

7. My relationship would be great, if only my partner would change

Maybe so, but your partner's change is not in your control. You can threaten your partner, further damaging your relationship, or you can take responsibility for the only person whose behavior you can change: you. That's a big enough job, believe me!

8. A relationship should be 50/50

If you got 50% of the questions right on an exam, you would receive a failing grade. Is that acceptable? This statement becomes a scorekeeping issue. I'll wash half of the dishes or mow half of the lawn. I'll do my part, but only if he does his share. Again, control your own behavior and do your part. That's 100% of your part, not a failing grade of 50%.

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Power Of Intention Dyer

The Core of the Soul - The Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Soulful Love Part Two

Gifting & Receiving Absoulute Love

For some of the souls here on this earth dimension, we are able to gift Absoulute Love what we perceive as easily to other souls. Spirit says that there are moments in which we perceive we are gifting Absoulute Love but it is in the form of the disguise of conditions, or expectations of how we think other souls should be. This form of gifting is that of conditional love, whereby if the soul acts or is being within how we think they should be within our perception, then we gift that soul love. If they are being something other than what we deem in our perception that they are "supposed to" be, then we attempt to provide the illusion of "withholding" our love.

For the souls whom have remembered, embraced, and treasured this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, then this Abso5B4ulute Love is an constant flowing resonance that they choose to BE in, a way of BEing, a way of LIFE. Receiving and giving are One in the co~creative forces of the Universe and of LIFE. It is from this sense of 6ratitude that we are in Ah! Or Awe! with, for, and of LIFE when we are resonating in a resonance of Absoulute Love. When we are within this ambiance of Absoulute Love that it is seamlessly, effortlessly flowing from within our soul to other souls to the Universe and then comes again to us in a continuous circle or cycle of Absoulute Love.

For the souls whom live in the perception of an axiom that Absoulute Love was free from ever being shown to them in their lives here on this earth dimension, these souls choose The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" of choosing the illusion of "withholding" their Absoulute Love. I should know this phenomenon quite well, as I once chose to BE this soul. The illusionary reason that I chose to reside within the illusion of "withholding" gifting Absoulute Love was because I felt that I was unworthy of receiving it, and if I was unworthy of receiving it, then why should anyone else receive it, especially from me. This was what I believed within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" when I chose to live in the illusion that I was separate, disconnected from every soul, from everything.

As Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, there was a moment i5B4n my Life Experience here where I 'decided' or cut off all possibility of Absoulute Love in my LIFE. As a part of the game of LIFE, I 'decided' while resonating within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole", that I was 'not good enough or worthy enough' to receive Absoulute Love. For me, this occurred when I was six earth dimensional years old. When I was six earth dimensional years old, I was a great speller of the earth dimension's English language and had won the spelling bee at school. I came home with a certificate saying I won and my mother was very proud of me and happy and she said "You should show this to your father when he gets home".

Now as an adult, spiritually speaking, I recognize in this moment that my father is the type of person that when he comes home, his form of meditation to wind down from what he considers to be a 'long day at work' is to sit down in front of the T.V. in his favorite chair, read the mail, and just veg out, as his form of meditation. But as a six year old, whom had been on this earth dimension for such as short amount of what we call as earth dimension time, I was free from knowing and understanding this wisdom, as coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from, we are free from this concept as all is inclusively One sense of inner wisdom and this is who I was choosing to BE as a six year old having been fr5B4ee from discovering and embracing completely the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul. So when I came running into the room just after dad had come home that earth dimensional night and was in his chair looking at the mail with his meditative focus on that, and me waving my certificate around, he was free from even ever acknowledging me. It was then and there in that moment that I realized the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate, that said I was 'not good enough' ~ not good enough to receive his Absoulute Love, and therefore, I must not be worthy of receiving any Absoulute Love. From that moment on I set out in my life to "prove" that I was 'not good enough'.

Therefore, when events would occur to bring forth a Soul Remembering, such as the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love through events such as kids picking on me at school or this soul would not play with me or be my friend, rather than choose to remember, embrace, and treasure the Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience, I would experience the thoughtenergy to myself of (and some moments in an Ego Fit Rabbit Hole tantrum out loud) "SEE! Look at what THEY did, SEE I am not good enough, see they will not be my friend or they pick on me etc..." Later in life it was with Aaron who was then my boyfriend, when we were physically separated when I became pregnant with our son Chris and he was in the illusion 5B4of believing that he was free from being ready to be a father, again rather than remember, embrace, and treasure, this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, it was "See I am not good enough, he left me".

Thus, from the moment of being that six year old, I began to prove over and over again within The Ego Self of The Soul perceiving myself as separate from in Absoulute Love and from All That Is, that I was 'not good enough'. For many earth dimensional years I became quite skilled at playing the role of the illusionary victim and seeking out other souls to bring with me into The Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole that I was choosing to create. In fact, I became so good at it that I had a friendship with a soul at one moment in my LIFE in which, our sole or Soul Purpose for being friends, our Soul Purpose for being brought together was for us to spend money and to sit while our children played together and have Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole fits about our perception of how horrible our husbands were and how horrible life is and so on! In essence, for many earth dimension years I was living my life as a six year old!

It was when I went through a weekend spiritual seminar that began the five year earth dimension period of what we call here as the initiation of Ascended Mastery or Spiritual Oneness, in which I would choose to remember continuously many Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience that would gif5B4t to me the rememberings of the soul for who I am BEing in this moment.

The Illusion That We Are Separate From Absoulute Love

Spirit shares with us that we somehow fear and believe that we are "unworthy enough" to receive Absoulute Love and it is this axiom within the soul that we seem to choose to call our own, as we hold onto this axiom as if it is ours that we are unconscious to that keeps us from knowing, experiencing, gifting, and receiving Absoulute Love which is why events occur in our LIFE, to awaken and re~awaken us to remember the Soul Rememberings that we have chosen to forget as a part of playing this game of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience).

It is within the believing in this axiom of "I am unworthy of Absoulute Love" Spirit imparts, that has us create a perceptional illusion of proving over and over again that we are unworthy. So just as who I once was choosing unconsciously to BE, we seek out relationships and events to prove that illusion of The Ego Self of the Soul that says that we are indeed separate from every soul, separate from All That Is, and unworthy of Absoulute Love. It is that we somehow believe that we are something other than always, in All Ways connected that causes us to experience the illusionary perceived e~motional disconnection, which is what then causes the illusional e~motional discontent or dis~ease, a being free from BEing at ease within, to occur.

The Infinitely Sp5B4iritual Light BEing shares with us that the reason that we experience the e~motion at moments like we are encased in a shell in our LIFE is because we feel that somehow we are disconnected from other souls and disconnected from All That Is, from the Universal Source that we came from and emanate from, which creates an illusion that we have a disconnection within us, with our soul. It is just that mere illusion that we are somehow other than The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from and that we are disconnected and unloved, that keeps us experiencing the e~motion that we are something other than connected. And it is our choice to stay in the illusion of disconnection that keeps us from being connected, from being All That Is or to step into and BE what we already and always, In All Ways, are ~ Spiritual Oneness and Absoulute Love.

BEing Absoulute Love

How do we shift this? How do we come to a resonance of Absoulute Love? As Spirit invited us earlier, they share that it is through 6ratitude that we are Absoulute Love. However, in being in 6ratitude within an illusionary 'seeking out' Absoulute Love in this way, Spirit says we tend to look outward for Absoulute Love rather than inward. Thus in this shifting into a resonance of Absoulute Love, the shift comes from within. It is seeing ourselves as worthy, valuable, Absoulutely Loveable (Loveable meani5B4ng able to be Absoulute Love) within our soul. We are worthy of relationships that genuinely honor the light of who we are. We deserve all of the wonder and the awe of All That Is in the Universal for this Life Experience.

Why do we deserve this? Why does Absoulute Love exist? Because this is the very essence of who we and emanate from. Because we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, therefore we are free from BEing anything other than Absoulute Love. This Absoulute Love for our soul is free from resonating within a resonance of The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate and in Axiom with that Absoulute Love of our soul is somehow selfish or conceited. It comes from an inner wisdom in knowing that we are all Divine BEings coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and is of, for, with, in and BEing Divine Absoulute Love.

How can we BE this? The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing brings forth the wisdom that it is within the enlightenment that shows us that since we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resi5B4des within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, then how can we be anything other than already and always, In All Ways, connected to Spirit and receiving their guidance clearly, and how can we be anything other than Absoulute Love? Spirit invites us to BE that of who we are, BE Absoulute Love ~ BE ever presently seeing the beauty and the Absoulute Love within us and let it shine from within us just like a beacon of light from a lighthouse.

Appreciate how wonderfully beautiful you are, as you are an expression of the Divine light. Breathe this in, take a deep breath in and feel this message fill your soul, your spirit. Feel the beautiful light of who you are as it flows from just about a foot above the diadem or crown of the head, all the way through the physical body to the feet, and then all the way to your heart center which is where the soul resides and then encircling your aura. Truly know with a deep sense of inner knowing, inner wisdom and truly feel with the feeling that comes from the very depth of your soul, getting in touch with every part of your soul remembering that of what your soul already does know and is within infinite all inclusive wisdom of but has chosen to forget in coming here to play this game called LIFE ~ that free from any shred of doubt, free from any hesitation, that you are a radiant 5B4Beacon of Infinite Light and Absoulute Love, an expression of Divine Absoulute Love, Infinite Light, and Beauty, and that you are All That Is.

Spirit invites us to nurture the spiritual child within us, the spiritual child of our soul. They say that within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love that the reason that we may experience the illusion of having trouble embracing our own inner spiritual child with Absoulute Love is that we in The Ego Self of the Soul create the illusion of fear, that we somehow fear the bliss that comes from BEing Absoulute Love. That we fear that we can BE, gift, and receive Absoulute Love and that if we are to take that one step, just that one step into Spiritual Oneness, stepping into and gifting that Absoulute Love to our inner child of our soul, that our light will come beaming through, and that it is the Infinitely Spiritual Soul BEing of Light that we are that we are illusionally fearful of.

Within The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving ourselves as separate our deepest fear is free from being that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are ambrosial beyond measure. It is our light, rather than The Ego Self of the Soul that we perceive that frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, All wise and all knowing, talented, and magnificent?" Actually, why are we free from BEing so? We are an inner child of the Spiritual Oneness of All That Is. We will b5B4e free from serving and gifting the Universe, all within the Universe, and all within this earth dimension by playing the game of BEing small.

Enlightened we are free from living in the illusion of shrinking our spirit, shrinking our soul, so that other souls will be free from experiencing the e~motion of BEing insecure around us .We are all meant to shine, just as children do. We are born to co~create the awe~inspiring beauty of Absoulute Love, of All That Is that is within us, simply because this is who we are. This is why we chose to incarnate here ~ to experience, to gift, to receive, to remember that of the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love. Spirit or Divine Consciousness dwells within our soul. It is the essence of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) and we always, in All Ways, have an unbroken lifeline to the Universal Source of which we emanate from, regardless of how small or dim that connection we may perceive it within The Ego Self of the Soul as separate to illusionarily be.

Would we ask a flower to be something other than a flower? A flower is a flower because this is what is, a flower. We are free from being able to ask it or make it be a tree or a mountain. And if we understand this, then we can understand that who we are is an Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all. And who are we to ask or pretend to5B4 be something that we are free from being? This is that of the hypnocrite that Spirit write of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, that of attempting to be something we are free from being. Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all is free from being just within some of us; it is within every soul. And as we let our own light shine, we consciously gift other souls the gift of choosing to BE the same. As we are liberated from our own illusionary fears blending The Ego Self of the Soul into the Whole of our Soul, into Spiritual Oneness, our presence automatically liberates other souls with whom we touch, move, and inspire by and with our inner light.

It is when we choose the choice to know within our inner wisdom that we are worthy of receiving Absoulute Love that then the channel is opened and we see, feel, and BE Absoulute Love within the infinite forms as it reveals itself to us, as the illusion that we are disconnected and unable to receive has then fallen away, leaving us with the connection to Spirit to All That Is, to the pure joy and bliss of Absoulute Love.

Spirit invites us then to choose that we are good enough and we are worthy to receive their guidance and to receive Absoulute Love simply because we have taken a view of all other possibilities and choose then that we are worthy of spirits guidance and Absoulute L5B4ove, because we are All That Is, because we come from All That Is. And if we come from All That Is, then how can we be anything less than worthy of receiving Absoulute Love from Spirit and from all the plethora of forms it comes in. We are worthy of Absoulute Love because we are Absoulute Love.Absoulute Love is inviting you to experience all that this Absoulute Love has in store for you. Do you accept love's invitation? We hope you do.

Gifting, Receiving, and BEing Absoulute Love calls us to open our heart and LIFE to all the gifts waiting for us that this Absoulute Love has to gift. It gifts us with the treasure of Infinite Soulful Bliss and Spiritual Oneness. Thank you for receiving the Absoulute Love of the Universe so generously in this moment. Welcome to the heart of the soul of Absoulute Love. Life is an experience, free from being about arriving at a destination. So too, is Absoulute Love a journey, free from being about arriving at destination, as we already are Absoulute Love.

The Shift So Deep

I can remember one of the more recent axiomal shifts that occurred for me about four earth dimension years ago now. There is a man by the name of Steve Rother, and he channels Spirit in what he calls The Group. I was listening to one of his channels and on came this song. A woman began singing this song and I felt as though every word that this woman was singing was meant for me. The words to her song touched me so deep5B4ly that I began to sob. It was the confirmation for me that the inner child in me was healing and that I indeed was free from being alone and that I am loved and I am Absoulute Love. It was the initiation that I would later come to know through Spirit into what we call here on this earth dimension as Ascended Mastery which I completed this circle of in the Spring of 2005.

The money that I would manifest to purchase the CD was free from being available to me at that moment as I had been free from choosing to manifest it. However, I was gifted with the messages from Spirit that I would know when I would be meant to have this CD and to manifest the funds to bring it forth into my LIFE. So I carried the copy of this song's sample on my computer with me for the last several earth dimensional years now and have referred to it often as a reminder of its beautiful words and of the messages that I received within it and from it. Then it began playing in my soul over and over until I heard it within and was free from needing the CD. It was amazing then and yet another confirmation from Spirit when Aaron had said this very thing about a favorite music CD of his. I had borrowed this CD to place it on my computer so I could listen to it too (as I like the CD as well) and so that he could keep the CD in his car with him while I would still have it on my computer to listen to. I had been busy and had forgotten to place it on my computer, thus th5B4e CD sat in our room for several days. When I said to Aaron that I had forgotten to do this yet and did he just wish to have the CD back anyhow that I could do it at a later moment, to which he said, "It is ok Hon, whenever you get it back to me is fine, as I hear the song within me, within my soul always so if the CD is elsewhere, I still have it within".

It was just recently when the healing of the inner child through Spiritual Imagination and Inspiration that Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Inspiration, which became the topic of our ongoing spiritual circle that we have weekly in our spiritual center that I remembered Spirits guidance that I would know when I was meant to purchase the CD of this song that I so fell in Absoulute Love with a few earth dimensional years before that had shifted me and the axioms of who I believed I was, that it was indeed the moment to obtain this and share it with the circle. Hence, I did purchase the CD then and the money was instantly there for me to and we utilized them in our spiritual circle. The healing, the beauty, and the shift in axiomal alignment that transpired that evening from just playing this one song was the most amazing transformation I have ever experience aside from my own. This woman's spiritual gift of singing of these words transcends anything here on this earth dimension, and I thank her from the bottom of my soul for the amazing gift5B4 she shares with all of us souls in assisting us to R.E.S.T. (Remember, Embrace, and Soulfully Treasure) within the light of who we are. She truly inspires me. Her name is Shaina Noll, and the song that she sings that I am referring to is her rendition of the song entitled "How Can Anyone?"

This song is such as simple song, so few in its words, but its meaning is so inspirational that it touches, it moves, and it inspires all who listen to it. It brings a healing of the inner child and also a resonance of AbSOULute soulful Oneness Love from the very core of the soul within you. I invite you to go to Shaina's website to hear the words to this beautiful song. Any soul who would like to listen to the song sample of this song "How Can Anyone?" or any of her other beautiful music, can listen by visiting her website: http://www.shainanoll.com/songsamplepages/songsamples.html and scroll down about half way down the page to the Songs for the Inner Child CD song samples on the left side and click on the "How Could Anyone?" title. Shaina's CD Songs for the Inner Child, that "How Can Anyone?" is on, as well as her other CD's can be discovered for purchase as well on this webpage or by visiting her homepage at http://www.shainanoll.com

Spirit says that what keeps the creative energies of axiomal alignment for expanded consciousness, increased awareness, and spiritual oneness alive, is an appreciative openness to receive followed by som5A4e soulful response to this receiving. As long as there is a continued openness to receiving all of the gifts that the Universe has to offer us, the gifts keep flowing, or we could say that the gifts keep gifting. They say that some moments it takes a powerful event such as the one I just shared here with you, or what we perceive on this earth dimension to be the illusion of something "bad" such as a loss of a home, or a soul whom transitions back home to the Spiritual Universe for us to get to that point where we are touched, moved, and inspired into the shifting of our axioms. Spirit refers to this as a spiritual 2 x 4. Spirit shares that these events when seen through the eyes of the soul, through the eyes of Spiritual Oneness, are just simply gifts that are gifted to us to remember the light of whom we are.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing also refers to the Prayer of St. Francis in which it is said that it is within gifting that we receive. Therefore, Spirit asks us what thoughtenergy, what axioms are we gifting to our soul and to the experience of this LIFE that we are choosing? In what areas of our LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) are we choosing in each moment to shift into axiomal alignment with our soul? What step will we take to open the door to Infinite Possibilities? The Infinite Circle begins with us. It is our choice. Do you choose AbSOULUte soulful Love always, in all ways?

Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD, is a universally celebrated author, speaker, and spiritual mentor within the resonance of Spiritual Oneness. She is currently the author of two books, "Life Long Learning ~ Transforming Learning; Discovering Learning Through Living Life in Unlimitless Possibilities" and "Stepping Into Spiritual Oneness ~ Spiritual Rememberings of the Soul Through Life Experience"; and has appeared on various radio shows and within articles of international publications. She is a Spiritual Medium, Visionary, and has been gifted by Spirit as an Ascended Master. As a clear conduit of the Divine, Patti channels the wisdom of Spirit within Multi~Dimensional ways to inspire each soul to develop their own inner voice of the soul of who they are and brings the gifts of Infinite Healing, AbSOULute Love or Soulful Love, Light, and Peace to all whom she inspires. Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD is the Director of The Diamondlight International Spiritual Oneness Center and also creator of the OneSoul REALationship Series. For more information about her please visit her website at http://www.diamondlady.net

Beth Moore

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites,16D3 and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrong5A8doer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forgiveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of theGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

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Will Rogers

Which Comes First Success or Happiness?

Everyone is searching for success, happiness, fulfillment and a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives. Many people unfortunately have not learned that putting the cart before the horse does not answer their dream of lasting happiness and a meaningful life.

Many people who have chased and found financial and career success have discovered that there is something substantial missing in their lives. Success, although a worthy goal, is no guarantor of happiness, peace and inner balance. However, if one discovers what true happiness is for them and achieves that inner sense of peace and contentment they set in motion an array of benefits that life showers upon them. Effort, busyness, and filling every moment of life with activities, pursuit, and the endless drive for achievement is not the answer to a happy life.

The following 15 principles when understood, integrated into your values and philosophy will ensure a life worth living.

Principle Number One: Have meaningful, challenging goals.

All life moves forward regardless of whether we resist or flow with it. Clear, focused and worthwhile goals keep you moving in the right direction and toward the higher ground. The meaningful life, daily moves toward getting better, wiser, more peaceful and stronger. Today, find your passion and purpose. This will guarantee the peace you desire, the success you deserve and the happiness you search for. Dream big goals and dont let anyone discourage you. Set your goals, give life to them and take action on them and watch your future unfold as you have dreamed. But keep in mind as you pursue your dreams and goals that success is not in crossing the finish line - but in enjoying the thrill of the race.

Principle Number Two: See the reality of life not its illusions.

All life is a perceptual experience. We filter all lifes experiences through our own personal paradigms. Life is not what happens to us or around us but whether we choose to see it clearly and how we respond. Learn to see beyond your personal judgments, opinions, beliefs, prejudices and illusions and know yourself. Life is a classroom where there is a constant stream of loving teachers helping us to rise above our personal limitations and life dramas. Today forget your mistakes but remember their lessons. You will never be perfect. You will always be in a state of development and unfolding. Be patient with yourself, relax and enjoy the ride.

Principle Number Three: Use your power of choice wisely.

Every moment of our life we make decisions. Some are life changing while others seem insignificant at the time. All choices lead to consequences. Some are positive, and some are negative. We always have options and choices. We may not like some of them, but we always have them. The choices we are given present us with the opportunity to move steadily in the direction of a better way of life as we move toward our destiny. If we chose wisely, we move smoothly toward this destination. If we choose poorly, we are guided back to the correct path. Each of us is responsible for the quality of our life. To point your finger at anyone other than yourself for your lifes outcomes is to live in frustration and denial. Each of us is free to choose any path. So today choose wisely, for tomorrows harvest is planted today. Remember, all choices and decisions bring with them consequences. We create our future circumstances with our present actions, choices and focus.

Principle Number Four: Do what you love.

To be truly happy, successful and productive it is necessary to discover a life mission that you love and feel passionate about. When you find and serve this purpose only then will you honor life with your talent, desire and enthusiasm. The rewards of life are there for each of us. To find the true joy and satisfaction of a life well lived requires that we do what we love. If you are stuck in a position, career or relationship where there is no passion and real love you will slowly waste away while your days whither. It is unlikely that you will ever love every aspect of your career or job. There will always be those tasks that are distasteful or annoying; however, the real challenge is to learn to do with love those things that you do not like to do.

Principle Number Five: Live without regrets.

The trail of life is littered with good intentions and deeds gone astray. To live with regret is to rob your past of its pleasing memories, your present of its joy and peace and your future of its glory. Make decisions and take actions today that ensure a life filled with harmony and magic. Learn to live in your present moments with wonder, respect, full awareness and a knowledge of how your actions will impact your future attitudes and relationships. Live today as if it will be the last day you will have to experience fresh air, talk with a friend, tell someone special you love them, witness a beautiful sunset or a smile from a loved one. Today is the only one you know you have. No one has a contract that they will see another sunrise or watch the moon rise over the horizon. Make this day count. Use it up, breathe it in, experience it and take some memory from this day into all your tomorrows.

Principle Number Six: Learn to laugh.

God has a wonderful sense of humor, and he put a piece of it into each of us. The essence of laughter is to relieve the stress and seriousness of life so that we can experience its fullness. Life is not all order and joy, nor is it all pain and chaos. The human estroyed in the process. We nB68eed to recapture the joy, excitement and wonder of our childhood. Taking yourself, your career, business, problems or life too seriously is to ensure a life filled with pain and anxiety. Relax, you are not going to get out of this life alive.

Principle Number Seven: Life is a neutral experience.

It isnt important what happens to us or around us. What matters over the long run is how we respond to these events, circumstances or people. Problems, failure, success, risk, criticism and adversity are neutral. They are insensitive to your reaction or subsequent actions. Life says, Here is life, do what you will with it. Life is not an event but an unfolding process of becoming. Face your fears, confront your doubts, overcome your negative tendencies and trust yourself and the process of your life. It is then that you will know real power, confidence and humility.

Principle Number Eight: Control your thoughts.

Thought creates habits, habits determine actions, and actions become our life. Most thinking is nothing more than old information, attitudes, fears and hopes recycled then reborn with a new face. Guard your thoughts. Observe your thoughts in action. Control them and do not become a slave to their impulses. We move toward and become the expression of our silent inner words. Therefore only allow into your mind what you would see manifested in your outer world. You can become what you choose. The pathway to freedom is through the control of your mind. Learn to use it with care. Guard its entrance. Let nothing in that you would not want to become a part of your life.

Principle Number Nine: Share yourself.

Each of us is a once-in-a-lifetime, unique person with a personal past, present and future. There are countless ways we can contribute to the lives of those who cross our path, as well as those who we may never meet. When we share the gift of our time, love, knowledge and compassion with others we give them a piece of ourselves, but we still have it to share again. One way to share your life with others is to be an encourager. Whenever possible, share a kind word, a friendly smile, an open hand or an understanding heart. Let down your walls that separate you from the spontaneity of life.

Principle Number Ten: Learn to detach.

Attachment to planned outcomes or the actions of other people is to live with frustration. Each of us is on our own personal path through life. We are learning our own lessons, experiencing our own unique results and creating our very personal future. It is not our role or right to attach our projected outcomes for other peoples lives. Life can change in a heartbeat. To mortgage your present for a future you can not guarantee is to miss the magic and mystery of today. Let go of your attachments to outcomes for others, as well as the outcomes in your own 5B4life. Life is what happens as we pass through life. You cannot manipulate your life into what you would like to think it will become. Enjoy the ride.

Principle Number Eleven: Live with gratitude.

Gratitude is positive energy in action. It sets in motion a series of events in the universe that will send you even more. Focus on what you have. Be thankful for whatever blessings life has bestowed on you, no matter how little or how late they may appear. When you are centered in gratitude, you open yourself to all the good that you deserve. Appreciation is the pathway to the heart. Like attracts like. It is a law of the universe. Today show your appreciation for the smallest deeds or actions of others for you. Be thankful for all of lifes gifts no matter how seemingly insignificant.

Principle Number Twelve: Let go of old baggage.

There are so many types of old baggage we carry with us that sabotages our happiness and success. There are old hurts, unkind words, unfinished acts, broken promises and fears, self-doubts and worries. These and many more like them have inflicted on us any number of bruises or scars by friends, loved ones, associates or customers. Learn to let go of all of this stuff before it suffocates you and poisons your attitudes and actions. Dont let the sun set today without forgiving yourself of past errors or all of the people who have wronged you from the smallest slight to t5B4he greatest injustice. Forgiveness is not condoning these acts or omissions. The true purpose of forgiveness is to release you from its negative hold. Let go of all of this old baggage, whatever form it takes, before it becomes a permanent part of your outlook, attitude and behavior.

Principle Number Thirteen: Deal only in the truth.

The truth will set you free. Dealing in less than truth sets you up for a host of negative emotional issues such as guilt, resentment, blame, anger, fear, doubt and uncertainty. The truth often hurts in the present but in the long run it is the only philosophy that will ensure you have a peaceful heart and a calm and centered essence. Too often people use the excuse that dealing in truth is difficult. This may be true, but truth eventually will prevail. Why set yourself up for a life filled with games, manipulation, ego battles and eventual confrontation. Learn to tell the truth no matter how it may stretch your emotional present. In the long term, the truth will set you free from all of lifes stress and strife.

Principle Number Fourteen: You are responsible for your life.

Your life is in your hands. Life owes you nothing. Until you finally take full responsibility for the quality of your life, will you truly be happy and successful. Many people feel that others: their organization, spouse, parents, government etc. owe them happiness, success, financial freedom and a v5B4ariety of other needs or desires. We fail and we blame. We have problems and we look outward for their cause. We are missing something in our lives and we look to others to fill our emptiness. We stumble and we look for someone to pick us up. My friend, your life and its outcomes are all up to you and only you. Yes, it is nice to have supportive parents, friends and employers. But in the end, your life is what you make it. Take full responsibility today for your life and its circumstances and outcomes.

Principle Number Fifteen: Love is all there is.

There are many kinds of love but the only real love is unconditional love. Conditional love says I will love when; or I will love you if. Few people understand and apply the principle of unconditional love in their lives. Until you can learn to love yourself, others and your life unconditionally will you ever truly enjoy any degree of peace, inner harmony and balance in your life. Love without strings, love without barter and love without an ego centered need for others to satisfy your need for acceptance, approval and validation

Ethics

1. Many associations, professional groups etc have codes of ethics or standards. For example I am a member of The National Speakers Association. We have had a code for 20 years. It is a standard of behavior. Guidelines that determine the edges of - what is acceptable performance and what is not acceptable. I know5B4 of many companies who have (internal pertaining to employees and external pertaining to the market place) Mission and Vision statements or Core Belief Statements. These are similar in some ways to codes of ethics but do not go far enough. They generally focus on the broader issues of customer satisfaction, growth, responsibility to the community etc. They do not, at least I have not seen one yet in the over 500 clients I have worked with, have, a set of guidelines for employee behavior for salespeople, managers, support staff etc. Yes, many do have rules, policies and procedures as required by ADA, OSHA, and other government groups, these are often just to protect the organization from a dissatisfied employee who leaves and may want to sue to an angry customer who has a warranty issue. To answer your question, in an age of rapid change, an aging population with younger employees moving ahead in the ranks quickly and the increasing cultural diversity of the workforce that it is imperative that organizations have a cod of conduct or ethics. Each employee should be aware of them and held accountable to them. If they are not held accountable, why bother to have them? These guidelines will give the employee a measuring device to determine when and where they may stray from what is acceptable, as well as give managers the ability to coach and discipline based on the same reason. It will create a corporate culture that will co5B4ntribute to the behavior and attitudes of every employee. It will also create a sense of unity within the business community among customers, vendors and the media whether local or national.

2. Yes, people today are under more stress than at any time in history due in part to the fast changes everywhere every day - due to technologys drive into our lives, businesses and careers. The internet for example: do the rules of communication, business, life, still hold or do we need new guidelines and if so what? This question and others are causing people to become unclear with the rules, how to interpret them, whether they apply to them or just everyone else etc. As a result, people without an internal moral compass given to them early in their life by their parents, caregivers, educators or church leaders are willing to push the edges of what is right and wrong. Is it wrong for example for an employee to steal a ream of paper form his/her employer when their employer break rules of ethics every day with customers to get out of paying a warranty claim. You see, the edges are getting fuzzy for some people. Then there are the millions of people who are now working for organizations who were not raised in this country but raised in another part of the world with a completely different standard of ethics or behavior based on their cultural background. I have observed some companies that do not deviate from their belief5B4s, policies etc regardless of how badly they needed the business, client or whatever. I have also seen organizations that would sell their soul to the devil for another customer or 10% more margin on a sale. I am not a moralist but I do believe that each (business or personal) of us needs to have a set of guidelines that sticks no matter what the circumstances.

3. The problem is that many people today still want to look up to, believe in, and respect their leaders. In many cases they will follow their example. Lets say a father says to his son I dont want you cheating in school. Its not good for you or your future. And one day you will pay the consequences. Then the son sees the father cheating on his Income taxes. The father also says, I dont want you to ever lie. Then wife then says, Honey its your boss on the phone and the husband says tell him Im not home. So what is this kid to think after 15 or 20 years of observing this type of behavior. There are times when it is ok to lie, cheat steal and times when it isnt ok. But what are the rules? He has do develop his own. So, example today is still a viable way to send the message that certain types of behavior on and off the job will not be tolerated. Off the job because it is a reflection of the organization that we allow people like that to represent us to you our buying customer. Next, that can institute classes, seminars, send memos, 5B4give public recognition to people who play by the rules. The simple issues is: you get the behavior you reward. Or to put it another way, behavior reinforced is behavior repeated. Managers need to learn to understand the significance of this simple yet profound truth regarding behavior, performance, attitudes, ethics etc.

4. If the organizational culture is to push the edges, get the business no matter what, dont lose anything to a competitor etc etc etc. then salespeople who do not have a clear moral compass will break the rules and betray the confidence and trust of customers. I can only tell you teaching sales for over 25 years that THE critical issue in sales today is can people trust you. People do not buy from people they like, they buy from people they trust. So, whatever you do that betrays that trust short or long term will have a negative impact on the quality of that relationship and future business. The key is to hire ethical people.

5. Trends indicate that the next major age: i.e. industrial age, atomic age, computer age etc. is going to be the Dream Society or the togetherness age. People are tired of being disconnected from others and communicating via e mail, fax etc. Although the internet does pose tremendous opportunities to save money by shopping on line it still keeps us isolated. All indications are that we are going to want to spend more time with people we like and want to be a5B4round regardless of how we do that. Y point is that we are re-cycling back to a time when people would talk about old fashioned beliefs, values, issues. We will no longer trust the media to give us our values and beliefs (dont know why anyone ever did anyway) and we will continue to mistrust the people we elect (Michellethat is an entirely different article, maybe even a book) Add to this mix that we have fewer heroes today that at any time in our history. Some people cant look up to their fathers, others to their elected officials, others to the media so who do they have left. Some people dont have any role models today. So they have to develop their own interpretation of right and wrong. IE some of the recent killings in schools, churches etc. To conclude (finally Tim) I believe that ethics are going to be a major issue in the next several years. And, I believe those individuals and organizations who do not follow a moral compass will find themselves with less business, fewer good employees, less cash and fewer customers.

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, relationship, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management and relationship topics. He is the best38A selling author of over 60 books including; He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com.

Nelson Mandela